American society is chaotic because it allows ordinary people to vent. If you have complaints, vent them all at once, then just eat and drink normally, and stop messing around.

Small issues that aren't allowed to be expressed build up over time, becoming big problems, and then a wave of major issues can take down a country.
The Soviet Union's collapse, Eastern Europe's collapse—it's all about small problems being suppressed for too long, eventually leading to a big one, and then everything falls apart.
Places with frequent small conflicts tend to be more stable because grievances are dealt with immediately, which actually makes people feel better and doesn't affect daily life much.
You might have a friend you argue with often, but most conflicts are resolved on the spot, so your relationship could be the strongest among all friends.
Even when there are more complicated issues, after venting and arguing, you can calm down and continue discussing rationally.
Since its founding, the United States has adhered to this way of thinking—trying to handle issues openly, even accepting bribes openly as political donations. You take money to do things, everyone knows about it, and ironically, this reduces resentment more than secretly taking money.
Not everything that looks peaceful and harmonious is necessarily good; human nature is complex and chaotic. Therefore, a management style that appears disorderly actually aligns better with human nature...