Human nature is this: if someone tips your bowl of rice, and you remain calm, they'll even lift your pot lid along with it. People fear power but not virtue: the more you reason with them, the more they will take advantage; if you become tough, they will start to behave properly. People fear cruelty, and ghosts fear evil: the world does not appreciate a good temper, only takes advantage of it. You have your boundaries, and only then will there be respect; if you dare to counterattack, you will gain respect. The best counterattack is to make the other party retreat in the face of difficulty: don't expect kindness to be met with kindness, you must make it clear that if they provoke you once, they will have to pay a greater price. This is human nature. It's not that your gentleness will be cherished, but rather that you are sharp enough for others to respect themselves.