Daily Q&A Time for Private Messages: About Career Choices and Confusion

Your current state is not a matter of ability; it's a phase.
Approaching graduation in your senior year, disliking your major, lacking family support, and having taken some detours—this kind of confusion is very normal.
Many people only start to feel truly lost at thirty; you're just a bit early.
Let me share a few points with you.
First, you're not suited to be a programmer, and that's not a failure.
Many people study computer science not out of passion but because they think it’s “easy to get a job.” Being honest with yourself about not liking that lifestyle shows self-awareness. It’s more sensible than forcing yourself into an industry you dislike.
Second, you are not without ability.
You started exploring Web3 in your first year and even made money from spot trading, which shows you have learning ability and information sensitivity. Later, losing your living expenses on contracts isn’t failure; it’s paying tuition.
Many people go their whole lives without experiencing “market education.” You’ve already undergone a complete cognitive upgrade.
Third, your real issue isn’t “what to do,” but “fear of choosing wrong.”
But I’ll tell you a harsh truth:
There are no standard answers at this stage.
You can only pick a direction, walk for three years, and then reassess.
Here are some practical suggestions:
1. Find a job that can support you first, regardless of whether it’s ideal.
The goal is financial independence. Not for dreams, but to avoid being led by family.
Once you can cover rent and living expenses on your own, your options will expand.
2. Stay away from high-risk speculation for at least two years.
Your current knowledge and capital aren’t suitable for high leverage.
Truly skilled people first accumulate capital, then consider amplifying it.
3. Find a “evolvable” direction, rather than one based solely on “liking the feeling.”
Some positions may not be glamorous but can train communication, cognition, and market judgment.
They’re more suitable for sensitive, thoughtful personalities than just coding.
4. Don’t rush to prove yourself.
Your biggest enemy now isn’t society but anxiety.
Many ordinary people only truly start to make progress after age 27.
Regarding your desire not to live like your elders—
As long as you keep thinking and learning, you’re already different from them.
On the flip side, the sensitivity brought by your family background isn’t just a flaw.
It’s a source of insight.
It’s just that now it’s turned into internal conflict.
What you need to do now isn’t find the “ultimate direction,”
but first live out your first sense of independence.
Life isn’t about making the perfect choice immediately; it’s about walking and adjusting along the way.
Don’t worry; your life is just beginning.